Reading the f-word yesterday, this quote was included on
their post about female genital mutilation (via
The Urban Feminist):
I am a Bristish born woman who met and married an Egyptian man many years ago. I underwent female circumcision when I converted to Islam. I have no regrets. I have not suffered as result. Performed under proper conditions as Professor Munir Falsi points out, it brings the same hygenic benefits as male circumcision and focuses intimacy between couples on psychological aspects of devetion to each other rather than erotic. The West’s stance against female circumcison smacks of cultural imperialism.
This made me so angry on so many levels that I couldn't actually sleep last night.
1). Mrs British-Convert MADE A CHOICE. She gives no indication how old she was, but I'm assuming at least 16 (legal age of marriage in UK) - probably she was older. She was able to MAKE A CHOICE because she had already experienced life with a clitoris. Young girls do NOT have their choice; they are NOT making this decision FOR THEMSELVES.
2). Mrs British-Convert, it appears, had her
mutilation operation done "under proper conditions". This is NOT the situation that the vast majority of girls are faced with.
3). "hygenic [sic] benefits"? "hygenic [sic] benefits"?!!! How many women do you know who have had to have their clitorises off for ANY reason other than FGM? I know a number of men who have had circumcisions in later life due to issues with their foreskin (and one who'd rather not be circumcised and so is dealing with it) - NOT hygienic reasons, though, I might add. I have NEVER EVER heard of a woman REQUIRING the removal of her clitoris, for ANY reason.
4). "The West’s stance against female circumcison [sic] smacks of cultural imperialism" - bollocks it does. The 'cultural imperialism' argument is rolled out any time a group of oppressors wish to keep oppressing. It is NOT "cultural imperialism" to require that women are allowed to go unmutilated, unless, like Mrs British-Convert, they wish - independently, and in full knowledge of the facts - to do otherwise.
5). "[It] focuses intimacy between couples on psychological aspects of devetion [sic] to each other rather than erotic" - you know, this bullshit self-sacrificing argument really really wound me up. Because I'm entirely sure that Mrs British-Convert's husband is able to experience the full range of "aspects of devotion", all the way from the psychological to the erotic. Because even if he has been circumcised, he will still be able to experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.
So Mrs British-Convert is wrong when she says that "[it] focuses intimacy between couples on psychological aspects of devetion [sic] to each other rather than erotic" - she means 'it focuses the feelings of the wife on the psychological aspects of devotion to her husband, rather than erotic, whereas he experiences the full spectrum'.
Everywhere I look this week I'm seeing female self-sacrifice being held up as the pinnacle of women's achievement - with, of course, the converse conclusion that any woman who - for whatever reason - would rather live her own life, fully, herself, is in some way 'wrong' or (heavens forfend!) trying to 'act like a man'.
Be it Mrs British-Convert who seems to think that she's some pure specimen of womanhood for giving up sexual pleasure, to Twisty's post highlighting the fact that more and more women are
taking part in anal sex even if they get no enjoyment from it, to the fact that I keep hearing about vaginismic women who just bear the trauma of vaginal penetration so that he gets his rocks off, without any thought that they could do something else that would bring them MUTUAL pleasure without the pain. Sheesh, even to the fact that when I read through a bunch of plays by Euripides* looking for the theme of self-sacrifice all I could find again and again was women deciding that it would be best if they just died.
* I know, I know. My own fault for studying a subject based almost entirely on the works of Dead White Men.